Be natural. It's not about honesty, truth, sincerity; it's about doing what is natural. Being yourself, and not someone else.
Focus leads to concentration that leads to us placing value on what we see. That is the root of all happiness or unhappiness.
Eg: When in love, one person is the center of all our attention, once that focus is shifted to some other purpose or object, the former person is no longer obsessed upon. The same theory applies to worry, pain, suffering and anger.
Most often people don't notice other people. What they see in another person is a failing that they have in themselves. Often, such people are needlessly aggressive or too uncommunicative to other people (who they feel mirror what's missing in them). What's important here is to realise which side you're on. If you're being picked at, know that the person doing so is acting under a sense of insecurity and that the action has nothing to do with you. If on the other hand, you find yourself as the aggressor, stop and think about whether the anger or irritation is based on a sound reason or is baseless.
E.g.; a person who is nice/friendly is a realization to someone else that hey, why am I so grouchy.
People don't change. The ones who transform are merely those who'd lost their way somewhere and have now returned to their true nature.
Every relationship exists because you want it to exist. The moment you do not want it to, it will fade. So, spontaneity, attraction, love, friendship in a relationship arises not from being in it but from wanting to be in it. Thus if a relationship/friendship is going downhill, one of you wants out, or maybe it's the two of you who want out – some are vocal and impatient to get out, some will wait till it runs its course and dies because then they don't have to be vocal that 'they' wanted it to end.
There's no peace in knowing the future. If we knew what would happen to us in the future, then we would either try and change it, or live our lives according to the path we think is going to lead us to it. In both ways, we have, by our actions, changed our future. And our mind, instead of concentrating on the present, is setting itself on a timer for that future date when something will happen. It's like a countdown. And the anxiety it causes robs you of any happiness in the present.
